It’s okay to not be okay.

We can make parenthood out to be as glitz and glam as we want on social media and to our non mum friends but we are actually making it harder for ourselves and future mums.

We need to make not being okay acceptable because it is, it’s perfectly fine to have a day when you are not ok and things are really tough.

I wish it was it was as acceptable to say I’ve had the shittest day ever and get everything off my chest as it is to boast about all the good things my baby/child has done.

I feel that not being ok is a taboo subject, around the topic casts judgments of “is she fit to be a mother?” “is she depressed?” “does she need help?” Neither of these is a true statement because I’m a perfectly good mum but today I’m having a bad day and playing mum is draining.

Some will relate some won’t but I am now a single parent, my little boys dad has him a weekend here and there which makes me sometimes feel he gets all the good parts.

The fun days out, gets to go to work with full energy and no disturbed sleep and I resent him for it, right or wrong for feeling that way I don’t care because it’s how I feel and I’m not ashamed of that.

Today I had a bad day, cleaning the house made me cry, putting reg to bed made me cry, didn’t make myself food because I just couldn’t be bothered and even turning the tv over felt like climbing Mount Everest.

I felt guilty, hurt and felt so lost.

What I realised is all of the above clarifies something! I am human..

I am aloud to have bad days and so are you.

These bad days don’t define us, they make us better parents.

Dont try to avoid your bad days embrace them because you need to let all that inner emotion go, don’t bottle it up. If you need to cry then cry, it’s ok this is not forever.

You are not superhuman and able to face everything with a smile because that’s not how life works unfortunately.

I can’t promise you won’t have lots of days like this but I can promise you the better days will our weigh them.

I am not saying we need to moan about our kids over social media but be as positive as you can about it.

I posted a photo to say, here I am, I am a mother and today I am having a bad day because you know what?! It’s temporary, it’s not forever and I am perfectly fine for being emotional because I am human.

We need to show the world it’s ok not to be ok, it’s really that simple.

I sometimes look at some people’s life on social media and think Jesus I want my life to be like that but then I realise behind those 300 happy posts is probably a unhappy girls with her own problems, it’s okay though she’s human but I can’t help but think there are people wishing for her social media life when really we only want people to see the good bits.

Now, I know that we don’t need to show every time we have a bad day but we need to see more realistic stuff.

I am about to travel south east Asia with my son who’s 2 and I can’t wait to share the highs and lows with you because it’s going to be the best challenging experience ever and I want people to see the real side to it.

The world would be a better place if people didn’t feel the need to be ashamed of not being ok, I am going to open up my DM on Instagram confidentially.

If you need to speak to someone, I am here. If you need to rant, I am here.

Dont be alone, don’t be ashamed and certainly be proud of that bad day it won’t define you.

You are amazing, you are strong and you will get through this.

Alone or not, together we stand as parents to never let anyone feel alone again.

(Instagram – chelsandreg)

feel free to message me x

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You were not made to be perfect.

One thing I have noticed this last week is that there are a lot of girls who are not just unhappy with their weight but are comparing themselves to other pictures of girls on social media.

This worrys me, specially for the younger generation because some of these pictures girls are looking up to are not even real.

Multiple angles, 200 different shots, editing, hold in pants, corsets, money, surgery, supplements, starvation, hardcore training go into some of these photos.

We can all have a good angled shot, good editing app but when do we stop taking it too far? Think before creating that fake image because you may have a young girl trying to make herself look like that when she’s already failed because it’s a false body shape and she has false expectations without knowing.

I have been through eating disorders, starving and depression over weight when I was younger and it can really become a demon in anyone’s life.

I am guilty for being very active over social media, one thing I have learnt is to create a positive presence.

Write, post and create posts in a positive manor to inspire and lift friends and family not to make them feel bad.

We all want to show off our physique specially when hard work has been involved so share it, include and emphase how hard you have worked.

That girl with abs and muscles works hard, means hard work and determination and it deserves every bit of praise and we should route for these people because it takes a lot to be them.

The issue that the world has is when people create that false image, a false sense of hope.

The biggest one I find is postpartum, I want a lot of women to know half of it is luck.

I snapped back and I did do a little bit of excercise and home training but it wasn’t hard work, I thank a good metabolism!

When you see these girls who snap back don’t feel bad, they are lucky and don’t feel upset and certainly don’t compare.

You look just fine, you have carried a baby and each extra lb help keep your baby alive, your body will go back to normal but it might take hard work or it might not.

YOU are the only one who can get that back, don’t compare wanting to be like someone else because you won’t ever be.

Aim for a size not a certain figure.

I wish we lived in a word where it was ok to be bigger, they make fashion so catered to a certain size which puts unbelievable pressure on the general public.

However, the knee high oversize shirt is a fierce look no matter the size (my fave).

I want you to be happy the way you are, whether it be a temporary figure just love each stage. Whether you be half way to your goal weight or happy the way you are.

Love your curves, nothing oozes more then someone who is confident.

I would rather date a happy, out going and confident size 12 then a size 6 picky eater who body shames her self every day.

I am guilty for chasing the size 6 and some people may feel like because I’m small m opinion is irrelevant but this works both ways.

I know naturally skinny girls that find it hard to put on weight, they would kill to be a size 12 with curves but their body just struggles to get there.

We as humans struggle to accept and be fully happy with our body. We always want to change things, improve but where do we draw the line?

Love who you are, every inch of it because until you love yourself fully it is impossible for someone else to love you truly.

If you have a man or woman who loves you for who you are, take a step back and listen.

You find 70% of women who want to lose weight don’t even need too.

Obviously there is a line where you need to lose weight for health reasons but still appreciate where you are now and where you need to be.

I hope this brings comfort to some who feel so down about their weight big or small, you weren’t ever created to be perfect so stop trying to be because perfect isn’t real ❤

 

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Important vaccination information – Toddler visiting Thailand.

This article is dedicated to those about to or planning to visit Thailand with their child/children.

Its easy to book a flight and accommodation but your child’s and even your well-being is very important.

There are various risks and diseases around Thailand so please find all important information in regards to what’s required, desired and age ranges for each vaccine.

Routine Vaccinations for Travel
Infants and young children are normally vaccinated against a wide range of diseases, such as hepatitis B, tetanus, pertussis (whooping cough), seasonal influenza, and measles, with a series of single and combination vaccines given during well-child health care visits. These vaccines often require multiple doses, spaced out over months or years, to create adequate immunity to a disease. By the time a child turns 18, he or she has completed all the doses and booster shots for vaccines against 16 different diseases listed on the current vaccination schedule. The routine vaccination schedule is updated every January on the CDC’s website.

Parents in any state can opt out of vaccinating a child for medical reasons (for example, if a child has a serious immune system problem that could make certain vaccinations dangerous for them). Most states also allow parents to opt out of recommended vaccines for religious or philosophical reasons.

Opting out of a routine vaccination can be risky when you travel abroad, though. Many vaccine-preventable diseases are more common in other countries than in the United States. Vaccine researchers like to remind people that these diseases are “just a plane ride away” in today’s world.

Before your trip, make sure that your child’s routine vaccinations (and your own) are up to date. Also ask your health care provider whether your child needs to start some routine vaccinations early, or finish some vaccination series on an accelerated schedule, to help protect them from disease when you travel.

Recommended and Required Travel Vaccinations:
Six different vaccines are sometimes recommended or required for international travelers. In most cases, these vaccines are not recommended for children under 1 year old. If you’re taking an infant to an area where a vaccine is recommended or required, you will need to take precautions to protect them from exposure to disease, and (if the vaccine is required to enter the area) provide a doctor’s note explaining that the child is too young to receive the vaccine.

The CDC’s online Vaccine Information Statements provide more details on the symptoms of each vaccine-preventable disease, vaccine doses, and potential vaccine side effects and allergic reactions.

Typhoid Vaccine
You might need a typhoid vaccination if you are traveling to South Asia (where the risk of infection is much higher than other areas), Asia, Central or South America, the Caribbean, or Africa. The bacteria that cause typhoid fever are spread by contact with infected human feces, and travelers often catch typhoid fever through food or drinks contaminated with feces. True to its name, typhoid fever usually causes a high fever, along with stomach pain and other problems. Untreated typhoid fever can be fatal.

The typhoid vaccine is recommended if you’re visiting a smaller town or rural area where typhoid fever is common, or visiting friends or relatives in an area where typhoid fever is common. Children age 2 and older can receive the typhoid vaccine as a one-dose injection, which provides protection for two years (get the vaccine at least two weeks before you leave). Children age 6 and older can receive the vaccine as a series of four pills, each spaced two days apart, which provides protection for five years (finish the series at least one week before you leave).

Japanese Encephalitis Vaccine
Japanese encephalitis, common in rural areas of South and Southeast Asia, is caused by a virus spread by mosquitoes. Infection can cause brain inflammation and other problems; a quarter of people infected with Japanese encephalitis die, and brain damage is common in survivors.

Outbreaks of Japanese encephalitis (sometimes referred to as “JE”) are often seasonal, so check your travel dates against the most updated vaccination recommendations online. You might need to get this vaccine if you’re planning to spend a month or more in South or Southeast Asia, if you plan to spend time in rural areas, or if you plan to spend a lot of time outdoors (such as camping).

The three-dose vaccine is given over 30 days, although that timing can be halved if needed with an accelerated vaccination schedule. You should finish the series of shots at least ten days before you leave. Children should be one year or older to receive the vaccine, which probably provides protection for two years.

Hepatitis A Vaccine
Because hepatitis A is extremely common worldwide, it is both a routine childhood vaccination and an often-recommended travel vaccination for children and adults. Like typhoid, the hepatitis A virus is spread by contact with infected human feces, or food or drink contaminated with infected feces.

Children who catch Hepatitis A often have no symptoms, but they can pass on the infection to adults, who become seriously ill. Hepatitis A affects the liver, causing problems such as nausea and stomach pain. An infection can take months to go away, and in some cases the infection can be fatal.

The routine hepatitis A vaccine is given to children after they turn one year old. They receive two doses at least six months apart. One dose of the vaccine, given at any time before you leave, can also provide protection if you do not have time to get the second dose before your trip. The vaccine is believed to provide protection from hepatitis A for 20 years or longer.

Rabies Vaccine

Rabies is a fatal virus spread by the saliva of an infected animal, usually through a bite. The symptoms of rabies infection include hallucinations and seizures. Rabies is rare in the United States, but it is a concern in Asia, Africa, and Central and South America. In these countries, rabies is most often spread by infected dogs, monkeys, bats, and cats.

Although most people get a series of rabies shots only if they are bitten by a rabid animal, travelers who might encounter rabid animals when they are far from medical care can get a pre-exposure (prophylactic, or preventative) rabies vaccine. Children are at special risk for rabies because they often want to play with animals. A pre-exposure rabies vaccine can provide some protection to a child bitten by a rabid animal until you can find medical help.

The pre-exposure vaccine can be given to infants (under 1 year old) or children, in three doses over three to four weeks. If a vaccinated child or adult is bitten by a rabid animal, clean the wound well. Then get another dose of the vaccine as soon as possible, and a final dose three days later.

This five-dose vaccine series can prevent rabies if it is completed before symptoms of rabies appear. Rabies symptoms usually do not begin until weeks or months after exposure.

Yellow Fever Vaccine (Required)
Like Japanese encephalitis, yellow fever is a virus that can occur in seasonal epidemics and is spread by mosquitoes. The virus, which affects your liver and blood, can cause jaundice, fever, and flu-like symptoms. Yellow fever, which can be fatal, is a concern in tropical South America and sub-Saharan Africa.

The one-dose yellow fever vaccine is approved for children 9 months and older; if necessary, it can be given to children as young as 6 months old. You should get the vaccine at least 10 days before you leave. The vaccine provides immunity for 10 years.

Some countries require an International Certificate of Vaccination or Prophylaxis (ICVP), which proves you have been vaccinated against yellow fever, before you can enter the country. You can get the vaccination and certificate (which is good for ten years) at a yellow fever vaccination clinic (see Resources).

Some of the countries that require an ICVP for entry will waive these vaccination requirements for infants. If you cannot receive the yellow fever vaccination for medical reasons, a doctor’s letter explaining the reason might be accepted.

Meningococcal Vaccine (Recommended or Required)
The meningococcal vaccine is a routine childhood vaccination, usually given to children around age 11 or 12. The meningococcal vaccine prevents infection with bacteria that can cause disabling or fatal meningitis (brain infection), blood infections, or pneumonia. These infections can develop quickly and spread easily among people who are living or working in crowded conditions.

Since meningococcal outbreaks can occur seasonally in sub-Saharan Africa, the vaccine is often recommended for travelers to that region. Outbreaks also occur in Saudi Arabia during the Hajj, or pilgrimage to Mecca. If you travel to Saudi Arabia during the Hajj (the date of each year’s Hajj is based on the Islamic calendar), the meningococcal vaccine is required for entry; you must provide written proof of vaccination.

The one-dose vaccine is licensed for children as young as age 2. It can also be given to children under age 2 if they need the vaccination to enter Saudi Arabia. It should provide protection for three to five years.

There are also precautions you need to take with mosquitoe bites, research the best repellent and carry a first aid kit on you at all times.

Its common sense but will remind all travellers to insure they are covered with the best travel insurance you can buy specially when travelling with children.

Be sure to read through all terms and conditions prior to booking and check the excess rate and it’s affordable.

If you are in doubt with what vaccinations your child needs request an appointment with your travel nurse 60 days prior to travelling as availability is rare in short periods and some vaccinations have to be done over 30 day periods.

Happy travelling ❤✈️

 

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10 flying with a toddler tips.

 

1: Remember to take milk on board with you, they don’t serve any form of milk other then sachets on board. You are able to take liquids through for a baby, they will just get tested.

2: Make sure you have a tablet loaded with multiple programmes and films. Even though long haul flights have the screens built in, you’ll find your toddler will find it easier with a tablet and can play it out loud if they don’t like head phones.

3: Make sure you are loaded with lots of snacks they like, they may get a meal on board but you may find they may go off big portions of food when flying.

4: Be prepared with take off, it could hurt their little ears. A good way to avoid this is to get your baby to have a bottle on take off and landing or get them to have a small snack.

5: Have calpol sachets at the ready, flying could cause them to feel a little unwell and we all know calpol is a god send at the best of times.

6:Make sure they fly comfy, and have spare lighter clothes as it could get warm on the plane. Also be prepared for cold so maybe ensure you have a blanket for them.

7:Small toys are a good thing to have, my son loved playing with his mini figures and small cars on the small table.

8:If you are flying long haul try and get at least one of your family to get extra leg room seats, the baby can then sit on the floor and play (this is essential for long haul)

9: Try and keep calm, babies sense any sort of tension. If he starts crying don’t worry, the more you stress the more he will stress. Take the baby for a walk and maybe just explore the plane. Staff on board will usually help where possible!

10: Have fun, embrace every moment whether this be the first or 10th time flying! It’s an exiting adventure! Get talking to them about it before, show them planes on YouTube and point them in the sky. It will add that extra excitement to the journey!
Happy flying ✈️

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Epoch Infant Hibiscus Hair and body wash – Review.

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(Above is result after using the products regularly and consistently)

I will start off with the full details of this product then go into detail of my review.

It is sold by Nuskin and various distributors amongst the company, this is my first product review of theirs.

Indigenous mums and dads have actually long made use of special flowers and also plants to cleanse their babies. Epoch Infant Hibiscus Hair and also Body Laundry contains hibiscus blossom extracts, made use of by standard cultures in Southeast Asia as well as Central The U.S.A. in order to help moisturise as well as preserve a healthy and balanced scalp while cleansing the skin and also hair.

Now you could use treasures of wisdom passed down by generations of mums and dads from the far reaches of the world to offer your infant the most effective care feasible.

Epoch Child Hibiscus Hair as well as Body Clean is in a lovely 150ml bottle which is easy to use.

You are able to dispense into one hand making it easy to use on your baby,  you only use 1 or 2 pumps so this actually lasts a long time. I believe it will last a few months before we need to replace it.

This product is specialist to help with the following:

– Dry skin

– Eczema

– Cradle cap

– Rashes

– Psoriasis

This doesn’t actually just work for infants but for adults too!

A spontanous try of it for my own use actually showed a huge improvement on my dry skin which was amazing!

It can take time to start to see huge improvements but I saw a difference after the 3rd wash.

I wish this product was around when my son had cradle cap as my investigation and research on the reviews has proven this product is incredible for it!

Obviously it won’t completely magic it all away but with regular and consistent use the results are amazing.

Products from the Drs and other brands have not even touched the dry skin and sores previously but it’s so great to have found something that works.

In regards to value for money it’s fantastic for the quality of the product, like they say you pay for quality and it it was ridiculously cheap you start to ask questions but I believe the price is more then reasonable.

You can order this product for just £18.25 plus postage (contact chelsearubyr@icloud.com for more information)

Something that really sells it for me is how a product is made and tested and if your like me I like to know what I’m putting on my skin and even more so if I’m putting it on my son!

It is made together with some natural ingredients like, Avena Sativa Kernel Extract, Sambucus Nigra Fruit Juice, Calendula Officinalis Flower Extract, Hibiscus Rosa-Sinensis Flower Extract and Nu Skin advocates and subscribes to both the ethical and humane treatment of animals and the protection of human health and safety, Nu Skin does not test its cosmetic products on animals, nor do they request others to test on their behalf.

When it comes to the company’s nutritional products, Nu Skin adheres to the same philosophy.

After doing some research NUSkin have been praised countlessly for their natural ingredients and for how well they test their products which is great to know.

I rate this product 9/10 and would recommend this to friends and family.

I look forward to trying their other products in the future and to continue to see results and the publics results with this one.

 

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Right or wrong? How about neither!

img_3605I think we all need to face a fact and that is there is no right or wrong with parenting. Some things will work for you but not for others, that’s just how it goes.

We spend too much time over thinking and seeking approval when really we should just trust our instincts.

You may want your child to wear Thomas the tank engine PJs to nursery with light up clarks because you feel that is what is you thinks right for your child or if you see someone dressing their child in the latest trendy clobber by Gucci with nike trainers on who are you to think that is wrong? Who are we to judge? I am pretty sure we wouldn’t like our child to be judged on what they wear so why judge someone who spends a lot and takes sincere pride in their child’s appearance.

As long as a child looks happy and doesn’t look neglected there is no reason for you to be concerned. If we spent more time praising each other and complimenting each others choices the world would be a much nicer place.

I want all parents to know your child might not be good all the time, they wont always go to bed early, they might not eat as much food as you would like and it certainly wont be as easy as other parents make it look on social media but THAT’S OK. Don’t ever feel you are less of a parent because your house doesn’t run on time like others. YOU are the parent, your child loves YOU regardless. Just because you do things differently does not make you or even make you question your ability as a parent.

Don’t believe everything you see, behind smiles are stressed parents. Behind a laughing child are 15 tantrums. Behind one sleeping child at 7pm is 14 nights of disturbed sleep. We were not made to be perfect; you will find your child will love you for your imperfections. Its not easy being honest but sometimes you need to be, it’s ok to admit you don’t do things perfectly, its ok to show the monster our children can be.

We need to normalise it because this false perception we are all guilty of creating when it comes to parenthood is making numerous parents question their ability to be a parent and how is that ok? We are all guilty of this. I have only just realised how hard we all try to make it look perfect.

The things that make being a parent are the things that don’t quite go to plan. The laughter after a tantrum, the morning smile after a night of disturbed sleep and the glass of wine after a stressful day. I could go on for ages but you get my drift.

We are all different and there really is no right or wrong way of doing things, not everything will work and if it does then it might not work for someone else. Just make the most of every challenge you get thrown at you because you will get through it and it will make you a stronger parent.

I wish we loved more and judged less, appreciate other parents and their choices because you don’t know what their daily struggles are. A compliment might change their day so why not give it?

This article is something I really needed to get off my chest.

Lots of love Chelsea x

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Did anyone ever mention parents matter too?

We all forget this the minute our children are born. The minute that tiny baby is in your arms you become selfless and every single one of your dreams and priorities change.

The only thing that matters is that baby. However, we get so caught up in our child’s needs and wants and we neglect ourselves. Our body, our wardrobe and mainly our social life.

Being a 24/7 devoted parent is hard work but we all need to cut ourselves some slack sometimes.

Its ok to go out with your friends, you need it. You will end up losing your self and let being a mum completely take over your life and energy.

People are so judgmental on parents who go out, buy things for themselves or parents that have social lives after having children. I understand people make the choice to not go out and to give every ounce of their time and money to their kids which is amazing and those children are lucky to have such devoted parents but just because I like to indulge in wine with my friends or I like to go treat myself to a new hand bag does not mean I am not just as devoted. I believe it is healthy to have a life after having a baby.

Just because you have a child it does not mean your life should stop, if anything it has only just begun. You need rest bite and you need that time to yourself to recharge your batteries.

I feel a better parent after I have had time to myself, I love missing him it makes my love for him grow.

If you want to go on holiday without your child, do it. If you want to go on a weekend away with the girls, do it. If you want to spend the night in with your children, do it. As long as a child is safe and looked after by someone you trust who’s to say you can’t get a break.

I notice women going out every other weekend; the first thing people think is “How dare she leave her child all the time. How can you she go out a waste money on drink and not on her kid” as long as that child has all it needs and for all you know could be with a grand parent or father, who are we to judge? The only time we should be concerned is if a child looks and is neglected and just because a parent goes out does not mean they are neglecting their child.

We are aloud to have fun as well, we look after our demanding children 24 hours a day 7 days a week and YOU DESERVE the break. Its healthy to spend time away from your child, absence makes the heart grow fonder (in moderation of course) I strongly believe that.

All a child needs is love, clean clothes, roof over their head and food on the table. If a child is getting that then no one has a right to judge.

People are worried to go out, spend money on them or get that break because they don’t want to be judged. All I can say is fuck them and their stupid opinion because every parent deserves a break.

You spend 99.9% of your time worrying and caring for you child, you deserve that break and don’t let anyone tell or make you feel like you don’t.

Keep doing you ❤️

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