We all forget this the minute our children are born. The minute that tiny baby is in your arms you become selfless and every single one of your dreams and priorities change.
The only thing that matters is that baby. However, we get so caught up in our child’s needs and wants and we neglect ourselves. Our body, our wardrobe and mainly our social life.
Being a 24/7 devoted parent is hard work but we all need to cut ourselves some slack sometimes.
Its ok to go out with your friends, you need it. You will end up losing your self and let being a mum completely take over your life and energy.
People are so judgmental on parents who go out, buy things for themselves or parents that have social lives after having children. I understand people make the choice to not go out and to give every ounce of their time and money to their kids which is amazing and those children are lucky to have such devoted parents but just because I like to indulge in wine with my friends or I like to go treat myself to a new hand bag does not mean I am not just as devoted. I believe it is healthy to have a life after having a baby.
Just because you have a child it does not mean your life should stop, if anything it has only just begun. You need rest bite and you need that time to yourself to recharge your batteries.
I feel a better parent after I have had time to myself, I love missing him it makes my love for him grow.
If you want to go on holiday without your child, do it. If you want to go on a weekend away with the girls, do it. If you want to spend the night in with your children, do it. As long as a child is safe and looked after by someone you trust who’s to say you can’t get a break.
I notice women going out every other weekend; the first thing people think is “How dare she leave her child all the time. How can you she go out a waste money on drink and not on her kid” as long as that child has all it needs and for all you know could be with a grand parent or father, who are we to judge? The only time we should be concerned is if a child looks and is neglected and just because a parent goes out does not mean they are neglecting their child.
We are aloud to have fun as well, we look after our demanding children 24 hours a day 7 days a week and YOU DESERVE the break. Its healthy to spend time away from your child, absence makes the heart grow fonder (in moderation of course) I strongly believe that.
All a child needs is love, clean clothes, roof over their head and food on the table. If a child is getting that then no one has a right to judge.
People are worried to go out, spend money on them or get that break because they don’t want to be judged. All I can say is fuck them and their stupid opinion because every parent deserves a break.
You spend 99.9% of your time worrying and caring for you child, you deserve that break and don’t let anyone tell or make you feel like you don’t.
Keep doing you ❤️